Grab a bull by the...

So I had breakfast yesterday morning with DanceMan. We got talking about relationship dynamics, and he brought up the practice of putting a pin through a bull's balls at the start of a bullfight, in order to get it more worked up and ready to fight. Some women, he told me, like to handle their men the same way, always provoking them in order to elicit passion. Maybe there's an easier way? I'm reminded of a friend's brother, whose girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend--for a month!!--and then turned things around and blamed him for her behavior. "You weren't paying enough attention to me," or so the story went. And he bought it.